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There was this piece of me—a young, vulnerable, desperate piece of me—who begged for someone to finally just tell me who the hell I was supposed to be, or do, or what my life was supposed to be about. Every time life intensified, waves of hysteria would swell from deep within me, the fear that I’d get it wrong… that I couldn’t trust myself to know what was true for me. I felt terrified that, without external guidance, my life would be wasted.

But then I started to explore what one of my early teachers called “the spirituality of the self”. I studied the way I reacted to the world around me, the way I allowed certain relationships, circumstances, and experiences to affect me. I learned I was powerful, far more powerful than I’d ever imagined, and that I could change reality by changing the way I was showing up in the world. In time, I released what no longer served me and made space for my truth to become my life. The artist, the lover, the priestess, the mother, the healer, the dancer, the writer . . . one discovery at a time, I hosted a reunion of the pieces of my soul.

This transformation was possible because of the supports I cultivated for myself along the way.  My blog is an extension of my journals. I use it to share the lessons I’ve learned, powerful resources, and inspiring stories of my clients’ transformations. Dig in and find the information and inspiration you need today and keep coming back when you need another dose! If you can’t find what you’re looking for, email me your question and I’ll see what I can find for you.

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March 20, 2014

Fred Phelps And The Others Who Hurt Us


Regarding Fred Phelps and all of the other people who broke hearts while they were living their human experience…

There is NO value in perpetuating hate. None. We are capable and called to do so much more. We are in choice. We must choose love.

We must choose love.

The absence of love, let’s call it fear or hate, is the very thing that allowed those people to choose the beliefs, thoughts, and actions that caused us pain.

We are wounded by the way he (or they) showed up in the world–WE have emotional baggage around this… WE ARE HURTING–and we need to heal those wounds. **WE** need to heal. Healing our hearts is OUR job.

My heart is my job.
Your heart is your job.

That guy’s heart is or was his job.

The hearts of the people we hurt are their jobs.

Yeah, that’s right, we hurt people when we forget about love. This is the power position, people of the world. This is where we can cultivate change. THIS IS WHERE LOVE LIVES. The right here and right now… the moment where we CHOOSE how we are going to show up in this world *with* our broken hearts.

Are we going to send out more of what hurts? Or are we going to tend to our broken hearts and send out love?

It’s a bullshit move to perpetuate more hate. Grow the hell up. Heal your heart. Do your own work. Stop blaming dead people for the hate you send out into the world. Just stop.

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