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Workshop: Trigger Happy Holidays


What do you dread most about the impending holiday season? 

Is it finding the perfect gift for people who want for absolutely nothing, or is it affording the things that you want to shower on those in need? Or is it the traditions–both old and new–that take more time, space, and energy than you ever have to spare? Maybe it’s the party invites from people who, either accidentally or maliciously, prepare a delicious feast that betrays your gluten-free family’s dietary needs.

Can you feel yourself being pulled into the hazardous intersection of myth and faith, hyper-committed exhaustion, and commercialism at its worst? Have you even recovered from last year’s oppressive Holiday Fantasy Family which was so masterfully perpetuated by the media and marketing gurus of the world?

Maybe it’s the violent tennis match between your sane adult’s desire to flee the country with your partner and children to avoid the inevitable holiday bullshittery and your inner child’s unshakable longing for a warm, loving family who honors your boundaries and celebrates you for being exactly who you are? 

Are Pinterest fails battling to unseat the judgy parenting feedback from in-laws, heartbreaking child custody conflicts, and blasphemous cartoon character covers of your most treasured holiday tunes as The Things That Sucked The Most?


What are TRIGGERS and why do the most special times have to be so damn bad?

First of all, that’s exactly The Thing I’m trying to tell you. You deserve to enjoy these special times.  Your needs and desires are legitimate. Your holiday season can be filled with joy, love, and (for the love of all things glittery) PEACE!

But–brace yourself, Unruly Woman, because this is a big BUT–it is your responsibility to discover, embrace, and cultivate your needs and desires. Yeah, I said it. If you want the holidays to stop sucking, YOU CAN DO IT!  Are you going to do it?

No, seriously. You can do it. And yes, I’m sure.

Back to triggers. We have moments every single day that call up a full range of emotions–happy, sad, excited, mad, and everything in the middle. When we have something that’s sort of sad, we feel a little bit of sadness. When something is incredibly happy, we feel lots of happiness. The experience and the emotion that it cultivates are usually similar in scale.

When we are triggered, that scale gets way out of balance and we feel (and sometimes even act) way out of control. A trigger-y experience is like someone poured gasoline on the fire. Yes, there was a small fire and yes, something would need to be done to tend to that fire. But once gasoline is applied, it takes way more to tend the fire and it causes much more damage than the original fire could have done.

It’s time to free ourselves from these toxic experiences. That’s right . . . FREE OURSELVES!

The earth will continue to spin as it does below us, the people will continue to be incredibly human, and the invitations to lose our minds will continue to flow our way. The ONLY way we will be free from the madness is to do this work ourselves.

Read more about Triggers: When Old Fires Burn New Love and Motherhood Triggers All The Things

Trigger Happy Holidays: Dealing With The B.S. That Drives You Crazy

During this 4-week virtual experience, you will learn:

How will Trigger Happy Holidays work?

The workshop will begin November 7th. We will have TWO weekly group calls–Saturdays at 9:00 am Central (November 7, 14, 21, and 28) and Wednesdays at 8:00 pm Central (November 11, 18, and 25).

The weekly “lessons” will be presented during the Saturday calls, and the mid-week calls give us space to process triggers.  You can join us from any phone with long distance service. And if you can’t make the calls live, don’t worry! They will be recorded and posted in the Facebook group (see “Archives” in the group Files) to listen at your convenience.

Between group calls, we will connect in a private Facebook group for day-to-day processing and support. Participation in the group is not required but it is highly recommended.

COST: Registration costs $99 and includes a private Intuitive Guidance session ($125 value).

Also triggers can be tricky, so $75 Intuitive Guidance sessions (reg. $125) are available for you throughout the month of November. Purchase as many as you’d like at that rate!

Reviews from the Trigger Happy July 2015… 

I learned how to use the fuel (of those trigger-y moments) to my advantage instead of them hurting me. That’s why this space is so sacred to me. This workshop. This group of women. It’s changed my life. – Maria

When Harry Potter first saw the thestrals for what they really are, instead of perceiving an ‘invisible horse’ pulling the carriages – that is the kind of revalation this workshop offered. I have been pulled around by these things all along, but I am beginning to be able to *see* them for the first time, which puts me in a much more intentional position and gives me back the feeling of choice. – Jessica

It feels *really* good to approach difficult situations and focusing on what *I* can do to keep my power. This is so much more effective and empowering than trying to control others, which of course doesn’t work. – Jill

OK, how about this. You are walking in dim light, and keep suddenly walking headlong right into huge spider webs. Cobwebs in your face, brushing against your legs.. you feel paralyzed and unsafe. This workshop is like cornstarch, or a spritz bottle of water, or a flashlight, or glow in the dark pixie dust.. suddenly, you can see the webs, you know what it is you’re about to or just walked through – they are still there, but the mystery is gone. You might decide to walk through, or grab a stick and wrap that web up to clear it.. but you are back in a place of choice instead of running around screaming, pulling spider webs off of your face. – Jessica, for those who haven’t read Harry Potter

One of my favorite realizations from this workshop: Recognizing when I am triggered in time to choose how to react, particularly with awareness of propagating sanity and respect vs further violence and confusion. Until this workshop, I had not considered really, how my reaction to an event would either amplify or help extinguish that trigger. – Jessica, for the win again

This Triggers Workshop is insane! We are navigating deep waters with some apprehension and timid confidence but we keep our resolve to go forward. I cannot tell you all what this workshop is doing for me and we’ve only just a begun. BEST MONEY I’VE EVER SPENT. EVER. ON MYSELF. If you are on the fence about it, if you’re considering it, if you think it doesn’t apply to you but you’re still somewhat intrigued by it, DO IT. If you’re thinking you might not have the money, don’t go to Starbucks this month, don’t eat out or whatever superfluous expense you can cut out to make you swing this. Trust me. You need this. – Maria

The workshop was validating for me. It is very helpful to hear other’s struggles similar to mine and even those that are different because I often feel like I’m overreacting. It helped to clarify a few things and helped me to realize what needs more work. – Rachelle

Trigger Happy July held a major release for me. Since I worked out my issue with circumcision–figuring out my former advocacy was coming from a wound and not a place of love–I felt relief. I feel like I am a better doula, nurse, and partner now because it made me truly realize that no matter what I do, no matter what research I send someone, no matter how much I nag, people will do what they feel is best. It’s not about me. It’s never been about me. And if someone else has a problem, it’s their problem, not mine. – Stevie

Trigger Happy July was an incredibly powerful and useful workshop. I wasn’t aware of any major triggers necessitating a need for the class but still found plenty of small and bigger issues in my life that applied. The group was a very safe loving place to process and grow together. I learned so much about many of my relationships / roles and better ways to cope or maintain my power in challenging situations. The process encouraged much deeper insight and analysis than I would have done by myself or even in private sessions. I received a lot of support and nurturing which helped me through some challenging triggery times, and I really don’t want to imagine how differently it would have gone if I wasn’t in the workshop. – Jill

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